I've been trying to figure out that middle ground of authenticity and connection mixed with appropriateness when talking to particular people I care about who are in my life about my life.
In particular- although not exclusively- the challenges I have with this are in conversations with cis straight people who I genuinely like and care about.
Culturally, sex and perversion is just something more casually talked about in queer contexts. Not always, but usually.
For this reason, a question of "So what's been going on lately?" is filled with images I filter and sort through in order to find one that feels appropriate. The recent queer sex in a hotel room a few hours out of town seems like an out-of-place topic for this conversation. My mind's fingers fumble over to run along my recent combination-kink of freshly shaven and oiled legs, deep emerald green panties, and butter cookie flavored lip balm. This, too, seems at odds with the context.
So my mind tries to imagine what would fit with them and I end up thinking of stupid, stereotyping topics such as taxes.
[Interestingly, I asked a queer friend what he thought he could talk to straight people about and he, too, said taxes. Why does this feel so certain?]
It's not just with cis, straight people of course.
At this point it could be with anyone.
be well; be loved,
k.
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